If you’re checking out this course, chances are you are feeling pretty burnt-out in your
relationship. 

You've likely tried everything under the sun to try and understand what is going on for your partner and adjust your behaviour/the way you communicate with them to try and make things better.

Chances are, it’s not working.

On top of this, I suspect your partner is telling you either subtly or directly that the problems in the relationship are your fault. I suspect you take this feedback seriously and have been reflecting a lot on what you do and how you do it, to try and improve things.

Despite your best efforts, things are not improving.

You’ve likely noticed an increase in your anxiety – a vague sense of unease, or a full-on dread of whatever is coming next.

Self-doubt is likely running rampant.

I’ll chance a guess and suggest that you’ve probably googled whether your relationship is toxic, but either you just aren’t sure or you really don’t want to believe it’s the case.

What you are sure of, I imagine, is that you want the self-doubt to go away, and to start feeling secure in your observations, thoughts, and feelings again. To get back to seeing yourself and the world way more clearly than where it is at the moment.

Clarify Your Reality aims to walk you through the process of regaining some certainty for
yourself. 

It’s not going to try and tell you if your relationship is toxic or not, what it will do is help you figure out what kind of unhelpful communication tactics are at play in your relationship and how they affect you.

Giving yourself the space to work through the course independently of your partner will help you feel more confident in what is actually happening, and how it’s affecting you. I say independent of your partner because chances are whatever you raise/bring to their attention about them gets shot down or twisted back onto you somehow.

Taking steps to get to know your own mind again is a key part of moving away from self-doubt.

Most of us have grown up in environments (e.g. family, school etc), which can be highly critical and judgemental of us. Most of us who have grown up in such environments aren’t too sure of ourselves – who would be, right? And this can make us vulnerable to not being able to see clearly when another person is hurting our body/mind/psyche.

Reflecting on and forming your own assessment of your relationship and it's impact on you is a big step for anyone to take.

I'd suggest taking your time thinking about all of this, and how you want to move forward.

Learning to trust your wishes/gut instincts is a massive part of recovering from self-doubt.

I encourage you to sit with this information and see if you are drawn back to it or not.

Even if reading this just prompts you to pay a little more attention to, and trust, the experiences you have inside your body, that in itself would be massive.

I’ll include some more information on what’s covered in the different steps below.

If you have any questions, please reach out to me at anna@annawpsychology.com.

And if finances are tight, please let me know and I’ll offer a discount to what you can afford at the moment. 

(An aside –I developed this course for women, however, I believe it is equally applicable to people
of any gender)

Contents of Clarify Your Reality - 9 Setp Online Course

Part 1

Step 1: Self-Check - Recognise how your relationship dynamics contribute to your self-doubt

Step 2: Name it - Recognise the communication tactics that amplify your self-doubt

Step 3: Read your Body Signals - Get to know your anxiety through your nervous system (Polyvagal Theory)

Part 2

Step 4: Open Heart - Recognise when someone contributes to you not feeling good enough

Step 5: Open Mind - Get to know what psychological factors are driving your second-guessing

Step 6: Open Eyes - Start to see yourself and others as they really are

Part 3

Step 7: Get Connected - Start to build feelings of self-confidence and security

Step 8: Take up your space - Start building healthy boundaries for yourself

Step 9: Live your Life - Start building feelings of security, and move towards a firm grasp on your reality

Each step progressively builds on the previous to help you develop insight and a felt sense of what is real.

Anticipated outcomes:
- Awareness of dynamics that increase your self-doubt

- Black and White records of what happens in your relationship

- Recognition of patterns in relationships

- Ability to name toxic patterns

- Map of your nervous system and awareness of how you move between states

- Stronger sense of your Connected place

- Recognising what you are being accused of and why it stings

- Awareness of defence strategies you use to help you cope with the toxic dynamics

- A clearer sense of who you are and of who they are

- Reconnecting with you when you are not in survival mode

- Identifying where your boundaries currently are and where you want them to be

- Setting your intention for the life and relationships you want

If you think you are in a Domestic Violence relationship, caution needs to be exercised around implementing boundaries. If you notice an increase in violent behaviour as a consequence of asserting yourself or setting boundaries, stop and seek professional help. You can download a summary of what Domestic Violence is, Helplines and suggestions around safety planning below.

You can still complete the course for the benefit of clarifying your thoughts, feelings and experiences. A major consequence of being in a Domestic Violence relationship is a separation from your sense of reality. Reconnecting with your sense of reality is a key step towards your healing.